Understanding Consent: Building Respectful Relationships in Our Community
In our Arabic community here in Australia, the concept of “al-taradhi” (consent) is pivotal for safe, healthy interactions. While consent might not be a topic that’s regularly discussed, fostering open dialogues that strengthen our community’s foundation of respect is vital. This article aims to clarify the essence of consent and guide you in using resources to engage in conversations about this important topic
Why “Al-Taradhi” (Consent) Matters in Our Lives
Consent goes beyond simply agreeing. It’s a free, voluntary and shared agreement with mutual respect in every interaction. This understanding is crucial in our community, where honour and family values are central. It’s about ensuring every individual feels safe and valued, whether in family matters, friendships, or intimate relationships
Key aspects of “al-taradhi” include
- Continuous agreement: Consent is not a one-time event; it’s an ongoing and shared process. You can change your mind at any point
- Silence is not consent: Just because someone doesn’t say “no”, it doesn’t mean they agree
- Free, voluntary and informed agreement: Consent must be given freely and enthusiastically, without any pressure or guilt
- Past agreement doesn’t guarantee future consent: What was agreed to before
- doesn’t mean someone will always agree
Navigating Cultural Considerations
In our community, discussions about consent can be influenced by
- Emphasis on “Al-hayaa” (modesty) and family honor: Openly discussing intimate matters can be challenging. This can lead to situations where individuals feel obligated to agree, even when they don’t want to. It is important to remember that true honour is to respect another person’s wishes
- Views on premarital relationships: The stigma around premarital interactions can limit open conversations about consent among our youth. This makes it essential to provide safe spaces for them to learn and ask questions
- Traditional family dynamics: Sometimes, power dynamics within families can make it difficult for individuals, especially women, to express their boundaries. We must work towards creating environments where everyone feels safe, respected and empowered to say “no”
Using the Consent Can’t Wait Campaign Resources
The Australian Government’s Consent Can’t Wait campaign provides invaluable tools to help navigate these conversations, translated to ensure accessibility within our community
The following resources have been developed to help navigate open and respectful discussions
- Consent conversation guide: This guide helps adults understand and discuss consent in a sensitive and culturally relevant way. It provides practical steps for starting and maintaining these important conversations
- Understanding consent framework: This resource offers a deeper understanding of consent in various scenarios, helping to clarify misconceptions
- Online learning tools: Interactive resources are available to test and improve your understanding of consent
Practical Ways to Discuss Consent in Our Daily Lives
- Use everyday examples: When watching a movie or TV show, ask: “Do you think that was respectful”? How could it have been handled better
- Share your experiences: Talking about times you felt uncomfortable can help others understand the importance of consent
- Ask open-ended questions: Instead of making assumptions, share and learn with others. Ask: What does consent mean to you
- When dealing with children: It is important to reinforce that no one is allowed to touch them in ways that make them feel uncomfortable, and that they have the right to say no, even to family members
Addressing Misconceptions
- “If they didn’t say no, they must mean yes.”
- Reality: Consent is active and enthusiastic. Everyone must feel genuinely sure they want to take part and understands what the activity is
- “Once consent is given, it can’t be changed”
- Reality: Consent is an ongoing and continuous process, and consent can be withdrawn at any time
- “In relationships, consent is automatic”
- Reality: Every interaction requires consent, even when in a committed relationship. Both partners have the right to consent freely at every interaction
Building a Community of Respect
Imagine a community where everyone feels safe, respected, and heard. By using the Consent Can’t Wait resources and engaging in open conversations, we can build a future where mutual respect is the norm
Start the conversation today. Visit the Consent website for more information and resources. You can also download the Arabic conversation guide here: consent.gov.au/translated-resources/arabic